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I apologize for the extended amount of time between posts. My play partner has been out of town, so I felt like I didn’t have much to write about. He’s finally back, but unfortunately, he’s packing up his things and moving away : ( As of this Friday, I will no longer have a play partner. We’ve been squeezing time out of each day to play until he moves. This crappy cloud does have a silver lining though…

Here’s a short summary in case you don’t know the situation… my play partner is in a long distance, open relationship. He has me to play with here, and she also has a play partner where she lives. A few weeks ago, I met her (we’ll call her E) for the first time. We had dinner, but couldn’t play due to poor monthly timing on my part. Well she’s here again helping him pack up his apartment. I met up with them last night for a few hours of playing.

It started off normally with me being blindfolded and stripped of my clothing almost immediately after walking in the front door. D (my play partner) led me into the bedroom by tugging on my nipples. Once in the bedroom, my wrists were tied behind my back and I was bent over the bed with my legs spread. This position left my ass open and vulnerable for the insertion of an anal plug. D began with spanking, then onto flogging and paddling. Then out came my favorite impact toy: the cane. This type of scene is pretty typical for us, but this time I wasn’t as relaxed as usual. Even though I was blindfolded, I was acutely aware of the other woman in the room watching me. She’s a kind and non-judgmental person, but somehow I felt more vulnerable knowing I was being exposed to her. At first, it was almost overwhelming, but I soon realized that the idea of being watched was making me really wet. I’m starting to understand why people enjoy performing in group settings.

For this first part, she just watched as I was tied up and caned, flogged, and spanked. My blindfold was then removed and I watched as he gagged her with his cock. This is one thing I really can’t handle doing, so when we talked about playing together, I specifically requested to watch this part. I thought maybe by watching I could pick up some tips, but no…it’s still something I have trouble doing. I did enjoy watching though!

Fast forward through the night a little bit…I was on my hands and knees with the plug still in my ass and D started thrusting into me. Then E joined in and spread her legs right in my face. I’ve never had any kind of experience with another girl so I wasn’t really sure what to do. I just did to her what I would want someone to do to me and let’s just say we both enjoyed ourselves : ) I guess this makes me officially bicurious??

I’m meeting up with them again tonight, so we’ll see how it goes!

Orgasms and Trust

I wanted to bring up this topic to see if it happens to any other women (regardless of power orientation). While playing with D (my play partner) a few weeks ago, the oddest thing happened to me. Unfortunately, it wasn’t the first time it happened.

D had my arms restrained behind my back and he ordered me to the floor. He had me kneeling so that the Hitachi magic wand was lying on the floor and vibrating strongly against my clit. He was standing behind me and intensely flogging and caning my backside. After a few minutes, he walked around me to face my front where he could flog, cane, and slap my breasts. It didn’t take long before I was on the brink of an overwhelming orgasm. After asking permission, I had one of the most powerful orgasms I can remember. It was absolutely wonderful! Until a few minutes later…after my body relaxed I was left feeling a little more lightheaded than usual. It passed quickly before I could even tell him about it, but this experience left me feeling more vulnerable than I ever had before during BDSM play. It really hit me how bondage makes me completely dependent. I feel that this experience has also helped strengthen my trust in my play partner. Even though he laughs sadistically when I cry from the pain inflicted by his cane, I know I can trust him and somewhere in there, there’s a kind and caring person : )

We were sitting in the living room when he blindfolded me and undressed me before leading me to the bedroom by tugging on my nipples. My favorite plug, which is a heavy stainless steel plug, was lubed and ruthlessly pushed into my ass. He then tied my wrists and feet so that I was restrained against the door with my backside exposed for his pleasure. There were bouts of barehanded spanking, paddling, flogging, and caning before moving onto the dragon’s tail. He absolutely loves this toy for the wonderfully attractive welts it creates. Unfortunately, I don’t love it. The sting is intense and there’s very little warning before you feel the pain. Once he started with this toy, I could hardly contain myself. I’m usually pretty quiet (I’m definitely not a screamer) during play, but the dragon’s tail makes me lose it every time. I’ve only cried a few times during play and it’s only been a few tears. He continued the strikes with the dragon’s tail until I had tears flowing from the bottom of my blindfold. The more I squirmed and sobbed, the more he seemed to enjoy it. Then, as suddenly as it started, the strikes stopped. I was then quickly rewarded for my suffering with an orgasm from my favorite toy, the Hitachi magic wand. And then came one of my favorite elements of play…aftercare 🙂 He removed my restraints while caressing the tender areas of my backside and softly kissing my cheek and forehead. I fully believe that I can withstand any type of pain if I know my Dom will provide me with appropriate aftercare.


I had the opportunity to meet with my play partner tonight. I suppose we could give him a name. We’ll call him D. Anyway about tonight…OMG 🙂 I’ve never been disappointed after an evening with him, but I can’t even compare tonight to our other play dates! Let me start from the beginning…

The evening started off casual with a little ‘how was your day’ chat. It then progressed to him pushing me down to my knees to suck his cock. Before I knew it, I was stripped of my clothing, blindfolded, and an anal plug was inserted. After pleasing him, he cuffed by wrists and tied my arms to an over the door restraint and my ankles were secured to a spreader bar. I was reasonably restrained in this position and even great efforts provided only slight escape from his strikes. There was some barehanded spanking, flogging, caning (my favorite!), and then through the bottom of my blindfold, I could see the edge of the dragon’s tail. My heart dropped. I absolutely dread the intense sting of the dragon’s tail. Like a good sub, I enjoy suffering through the pain because I know it brings D pleasure. At this point, I was also gagged so my moans and pleas for mercy were quite muffled and seemed to go unnoticed. I did my best to take the painful strikes. Just when I thought I couldn’t possibly take any more, it was all over. D is quite perceptive when it comes to approaching my physical limits. I can’t count the number of times I almost needed my safe word, but then didn’t. It seems he has perfected the skill of filtering out my whiny moans and cries from my true signs of distress.

I’ve drifted off topic a little, so back to what I really wanted to talk about. We discovered a while ago that my favorite toy is the Hitachi magic wand. D is kind enough to incorporate it into our play regularly. Well tonight, we used it a little differently. D ordered me to kneel on the bed with my legs spread enough for the insertion of an attachment which turns the magic wand into a vibrating dildo. I was blindfolded and kneeling over my favorite toy when he placed clamps tightly on my nipples. I think the flogging on my back and ass was first. It seemed harder than usual, but I barely noticed given the distraction of the magic wand. Then the caning started. It was intense up and down my back and all over my ass. The sensations of my favorite toy seemed to override the intense pain. I hardly even squirmed (which is my usual response to harsh strikes). I asked for permission to cum three separate times, but I’m fairly sure I was orgasming (is that a word? spell check doesn’t like it) the entire time. These strikes were some of the hardest and most severe hits I’ve taken in a long time, maybe even ever. The entire time seemed like a state of euphoria. As you know from my other post, I consider myself to be a bit of a painslut but tonight was better than anything I’ve ever imagined. Typically, I prefer hits to my backside instead of my front. After spending time on my back, I heard D walk around the bed so the he was standing in front of me. He touched my breasts and I pieced together that he wanted to cane my breasts. This type of realization usually gets quite the reaction out of me as I wiggle around in an attempt to avoid the pain. This time I was much more submissive as a result of the most wonderful mix of pain and pleasure. I simply moved my arms out of the way so he could do whatever he desired. I didn’t even realize how intense our play was until D told me to turn off the magic wand and lie face down on the bed. As I followed his command, I heard him leave the room. He returned with ice for the quickly growing welts on my backside. Even as I write this two hours after the end of our play session, I still can’t believe how much I enjoyed tonight!

I believe in that moment I would have done absolutely anything D desired. Does this level of submission count as subspace? I’ve never experienced subspace and quite honestly, I wasn’t sure it was possible for me. Maybe I’m in for some new experiences!

This post ended up being a little longer than I intended, even after I left out some pretty important aspects of our play tonight. Sorry! And I hope you can feel the excitement and happiness flowing out of me!

Pain and Masochism

I recently discovered I am a painslut. I thoroughly enjoy the physical pain brought on by BDSM play. Although I enjoy other sources of pain like nipple clamps, my favorite is the pain caused my impact play. I feel most people start exploring impact play with something relatively simple, such as bare handed spanking. Oddly enough, this is one type of pain I can’t handle much of. My favorite type of impact play is caning. The sting can be pretty severe but it’s relatively short lasting and covers only a small area. I love it! My pain tolerance is highest with the cane than it is with any other toy. I can handle flogging on my ass, but have trouble taking much on my back or breasts. My current play partner went to a party and discovered his interest in the dragon’s tail, or the evil toy as I call it. He decided to purchase one and bring it into our play. Ouch! I absolutely hate it. I’m not much of a cryer, but playing with the dragon’s tail made me cry for the first time during play. I have found that the more pain I endure, the more sensitive I am to pleasure. It’s wonderful! When I look back on play sessions, it is the pain that I remember most fondly 🙂